“I thought I was over this...”
If you’ve ever found yourself saying those words, you’re not alone. Healing—whether emotional, physical, or spiritual—is rarely a straight path. It can feel more like a spiral, a tide, a dance. One step forward, two steps back. Then, out of nowhere, a leap ahead. It's in this rhythm that real transformation unfolds.
The Myth of Linear Healing
We live in a society obsessed with progress and timelines. We're told to “get over it,” “move on,” and “bounce back.” But healing doesn’t follow a calendar or a straight trajectory. There are no gold stars for having fewer bad days or a quicker recovery. And relapses, flare-ups, or emotional waves don’t mean you’ve failed—they mean you're human.
Healing isn’t about erasing the pain or fixing yourself—it’s about learning how to be with yourself through it all.
What Healing Really Is
True healing is about building internal capacity. That means:
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Learning how to stay grounded when things feel chaotic.
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Developing tools to regulate your emotions, rather than being ruled by them.
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Cultivating a deeper relationship with your body, your nervous system, and your intuition.
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Finding ways to return to center even after being knocked off balance.
It’s not about avoiding pain. It’s about expanding your ability to hold pain, joy, grief, love, and everything in between.
Life Will Always Have Ebbs and Flows
Just like the ocean, life moves in cycles. There are seasons of clarity and seasons of confusion. Times of peace and times of pain. Healing teaches us to meet life as it is—not as we wish it to be.
When we stop expecting ourselves to be “done” healing, we can start embracing the journey with more compassion. Instead of fearing the waves, we learn how to ride them. We become less reactive, more resilient, and more connected to who we truly are.
What It Looks Like in Practice
Building capacity might look like:
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Taking a deep breath before reacting.
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Letting yourself cry without needing to explain why.
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Saying no, even if it disappoints someone.
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Making space for rest when your body asks for it.
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Speaking to yourself kindly on the hard days.
These small acts become the foundations of real healing—not perfection, but presence.
A Reminder For Wherever You Are Right Now
You are not behind. You are not broken.
You are learning how to live from your center—not from your wounds.
Healing is not a race. It’s a relationship—with yourself, your story, and the life that’s unfolding through you.
So, if you're in an ebb, trust that the flow will come. And if you're in the flow, soak it in without gripping too tightly. Life is a dance, and you are learning the rhythm.
Keep going. You’re doing beautifully.